Weddings are weddings! No matter if it’s a bride and groom, two brides, or two grooms. Every special day has the planner or planners and gives a unique perspective to their wedding planning process.
Ben and David were married in the beginning of the summer of 2017.
Here are their 9 tips for getting married:
It won’t be cheap. At some point you might just forget about the budget. Luckily, we were smart about where we could save money. Also, we had a year and a half to plan, plenty of time which meant we could save up and avoid being stressed while being engaged.
Do it yourself to keep costs low. We did all our own centerpieces, DIY, purchasing materials, instead of renting, and then selling them back after our wedding. We put together all of our own floral arrangements and are glad we tested them out before the wedding!
Have a creative partner. It really helped with the design, but also with the logistics. We looked on Pinterest for ideas and made some ideas our own. Then found vendors that filled the gaps of what we couldn’t do on our own.
Use resources. We did use the Minnesota Wedding Guide™ booklet for our timeline, it was really helpful. Ben, preened information from doing other weddings, overall, we had a great guideline for the planning process.
Agree. The only frustrating part of the wedding was changing our mind on suits, flip flopping on decisions that we thought we had made. Working together is key. Your wedding is a team effort. Certain things that were really important to one of us but not the other we compromised on. It’s so important that, as a couple, you don’t get stuck on arguing about the little things. Remember why you are having a wedding in the first place.
Be with your guests. We had decided to sit amongst everyone, so no head table or sweetheart table. We really wanted to be at our wedding, so we sat with our parents and the people giving our toasts. We also had our moms sign our marriage license, very sentimental, but also another way we involved our family in the wedding.
Save the drama. It was easy to agree on things because we took the time to look at it from the other person’s perspective–on the wedding day and during the planning process. We definitely suggest premarital counseling; it was fun and we felt like we really benefited from it. We learned about our love languages – how do we interact with each other and then how do we feed that. Counseling was really a safe place to be heard and work through topics that are tough for any couple.
Be in the moment. This is the best advice we can give. Getting to know the minister really made the difference, he even cried at the wedding, which meant a lot to us. It was great to just be present, to soak it all in, and not worry about what was happening before or after that moment.
Keep track of everything. Keep all of your receipts and bring everything with you when you go to meetings–we suggest a notebook or 3-ring binder. This serves as a point of reference, plus it shows vendors just how serious you are about your wedding.
Check out Ben + David’s wedding vendors:
VENUE // Saint Paul College Club
PHOTOGRAPHER // Studio Laguna
OFFICIANT // Reverend Pat Williamson
CAKE // Queen of Cakes
DECOR // Festivities
FLORIST // Soderberg’s
STATIONERY // Litin Party Supply
LIQUOR // Thomas Liquor
MUSIC // Rachel Holder Hennig + Ovation String Quartet
GUESTBOOK // Studio Veil